Emotional Resilience for First Generation Entrepreneurs

There’s something about being the first. The first to spread gossip or break the news. The first to finish a test. The first to achieve a goal. Everybody wants to be first. But there are some things that a lot of us wish we didn’t have to be first.

I remember a possum getting into my childhood home. Just me and my mom and both of us were scared past death. In most cases, my leader instinct would kick in and I’d be quick to lead the way. But not this night. This night, I wanted mother to go first. And like any mother bear, she did just that and before we knew it, ole possum was gone.

When I started my first business, I wasn’t sure what I was getting myself into. I needed mother bear to come to my rescue. No one in my family had ever owned a business. I was the first to receive a master’s degree, first to a PhD. Charting new terrain was my forte. But there’s something about being the first business owner that feels intimidating, like walking into the belly of the beast.

It can be emotionally challenging starting a business, let alone being the first in the family. It comes with a distinct set of challenges and no familial point of reference. It can be emotionally debilitating. And while many mentors and consultants count the many ways to strategically build from the ground up, not very much emphasis is placed on the need to build emotionally from the inside out.

It is common to expect emotional challenges, such as rejection, uncertainty, imposter syndrome, even burnout. But just as you have a business plan in place, so should you have an emotional plan in place. Understanding your emotions and triggers and their impact on your productivity and decision making is vital to the overall success of your business.

1.      Purpose

Remembering why you started keeps momentum flowing. Craft your vision statement early so you can always refer back to it as needed.

2.      Prevenience

We’ve all heard the saying: "It is better to act than react". Setbacks will come and they will be a major stressor. Your answer: anticipate as many setbacks as possible so you can prepare ahead of time. My favorite saying: "It wasn’t raining when Noah built the ark".

3.      Preparation

In the world of entrepreneurship, routines are your best friend. Aside from scheduling posts, blogs, podcasts, etc., make sure to schedule time for self. Get a self-care regimen going to ensure you eat well, get enough sleep, and be available for the things that keep your soul and spirit refreshed.

4.      Peers

You will get tired. You will experience burnout. There will be uncertainty and doubt. The best remedy lies in a tight network. On your worst days, support from family and friends will boost your morale and help you get back on track. Don’t go at it alone. Most help is only a call or text away.

Remember, entrepreneurship is not only about making money. It’s about doing the thing you’ve always wanted to do and having fun while you do it. Don’t overthink it. Don’t overcompensate. Just show up and give it your best shot. The rest will eventually fall into place.